Can ‘Romance’ Heal?

Is the word “romantic” just another way of saying “thoughtful”? Let’s examine that possibility. If one is considerate to a life partner with whom affection, in the form of physical contact including hugs and kisses, is shared, then taking the other’s feelings and preferences into consideration when offering periodic surprises might be categorized as romantic. If periodic, thoughtful surprises are offered between two people who are platonic dear friends or buddies, we call this behavior simply kind and considerate. But a rose by any other name stills smells sweet, and no matter what language you speak, the ice cream you order will be cold and delicious (if you like ice cream, that is). Therefore, putting the preferences and needs of another before ourselves may add a touch of class and a dash of good vibrations to that shared moment. The question then becomes: Can romance and/or being considerate heal? To answer that, we need to break it down a bit more.

Accepting the premise that the human body is designed to heal itself (i.e., cut skin self-repairs; a hairline fracture in a bone mends itself; if you catch a virus, the body fights it, and so on), what happens in the body when consideration and/or romance are offered? The spirit becomes lighter, muscles relax, the face and eyes may smile, and a deep breath or laughter might follow. These reflect the inner workings of many neurotransmitters and brain chemistry that respond in a positive way to the simple gesture of kindness and consideration. In short, thoughtfulness facilitates balance of mind, body, and spirit.

Can balance of mind, body, and spirit be healing?

Yes it can. In fact, it is necessary. So, add a healing moment to your day. Think about offering a serving of kindness to yourself, and then offer a bit to someone for whom you care deeply. Whether you call it romance or simply consideration, it is healing for mind, body, and spirit.

Dr. Nancy Iankowitz is a board certified family nurse practitioner and Director of Holistic and Integrative Healing LLC. She is also host of “Marcy’s World”on Pawling Public Radio. Email your questions to: For more information, call (917) 716-6802, or visit online.